Grief Resources

BC Student Reflections

<a href="https://www.bcheights.com/2023/02/05/through-her-sisters-memoir-leddy-tells-story-of-mental-health-grief-and-healing/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Through Her Sister’s Memoir, Leddy Tells Story of Mental Health, Grief, and Healing</a> <a href="https://www.bcheights.com/2019/02/03/bc-must-change-how-it-handles-grief/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BC Must Change How it Handles Grief</a> <a href="https://www.bcheights.com/2016/12/08/dunn-talks-love-lost-love-unrealized/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Dunn Talks ‘Love Lost’, ‘Love Unrealized’</a> <a href="https://www.bcheights.com/2016/10/26/can-learn-grieve-public/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How We Can Learn to Grieve in Public</a> <a href="https://www.bcheights.com/2015/11/04/why-you-cannot-escaping-feeling-grief/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Why You Cannot Escape Feeling Grief</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2018/04/04/generation-guns-and-grief/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Generation Guns and Grief</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2016/09/23/coping-with-grief-on-a-college-campus/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Coping with Grief on a College Campus</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2022/06/13/the-student-athlete-mental-health-crisis/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Student Athlete Mental Health Crisis</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2021/01/11/breaking-the-stigma-around-miscarriages-and-other-shared-losses/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Breaking the Stigma Around Miscarriages (and Other Shared Losses)</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2020/10/18/tragedies-should-not-be-time-sensitive/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Tragedies Should Not Be Time Sensitive</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2020/10/04/we-need-to-talk-about-suicideloss-survivors-during-suicide-prevention-month/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">We Need To Talk About Suicide-Loss Survivors During Suicide Prevention Month</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2018/03/30/whats-wrong-walk-up-not-out/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">What’s Wrong With ‘Walk Up Not Out’</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2017/05/04/authentic-eagles-olivia-hussey-loss/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Authentic Eagles: Olivia Hussey on Loss</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2015/02/26/opinion-your-facebook-page-wont-make-you-immortal/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Opinion: Your Facebook Page Won’t Make You Immortal</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2014/11/03/authentic-eagles-ryan-santacrose-on-perspective/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Authentic Eagles: Ryan Santacrose on Perspective</a> <a href="https://bcgavel.com/2012/10/13/opinion-youre-my-blue-sky-youre-my-sunny-day/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Opinion: You’re My Blue Sky, You’re My Sunny Day</a>

You are not alone in your experience of grief, below you will find an assortment of reflections from BC students on their experiences of grief.

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Collective Grief

<a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2022/05/27/collective-grief-from-school-shootings-pandemic-is-rewiring-brains.html" target="_blank">The U.S. is wrapped in ‘collective grief…’</a>

Grief is not only an individual experience, we can experience it as communities as well. Below you will find resources regarding shared losses.

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Grief in College

<a href="https://healgrief.org/actively-moving-forward/" target="_blank">Actively Moving Forward</a> <a href="https://healgrief.org/actively-moving-forward/coping-grief-college/" target="_blank">Coping with Grief in College  </a>Outlines what to expect when grieving and what you can “do” to seek support and/or care for yourself while grieving

Grief in college is a unique experience and may feel isolating. Here is a selection of resources that speak to the experience of grieving while navigating college.

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Moving Forward/Coping with Grief

<a href="https://www.npr.org/2020/05/12/854905033/grief-for-beginners-5-things-to-know-about-processing-loss" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grief for beginners </a>5 strategies to help cultivate a healthy relationship with grief. <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/06/dear-therapists-guide-grieving/619104/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Paradox of Grief</a> The isolating reality of loss and the significance of seeking out connection and support. <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2021/12/bell-hooks-you-cant-get-through-grief-alone/621051/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grief is Evidence of Love </a>Grieving and healing as communal acts “Grief is an acknowledgment of loss, yes, but it is also a way of honoring our commitment to those who have passed on…” <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gsYL4PC0hyk" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Grieving Process: Coping with Death </a>Typical response to grief, what to expect, and general suggestions for navigating grief and importance of acknowledging grief “Grief is less like a staircase and more like a rollercoaster…” <a href="https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it?language=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">We Don't "Move On" from Grief. We Move Forward With It. </a>TED Talk

Grief can often feel overwhelming, here are a selection of resources that discuss some common experiences of grief and provide suggestions for how to navigate grieving.

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Prayers & Poems

<a href="https://garden24.co/blogs/blog/for-anyone-grieving-today" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">For Anyone Grieving Today</a> - Morgan Harper Nichols <a href="http://www.journey-through-grief.com/praying-our-goodbyes.html#:~:text=is%20a%20book%20written%20by,in%20the%20midst%20of%20loss." target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Prayer When a Loved One Has Died</a> - Joyce Rupp

Poems and prayers can often be sources of comfort and connection during the grieving process. Here you will find a selection of resources that have been meaningful for members of the Campus Ministry team during their experiences of grief.

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Psychology and Science of Grief

<a href="https://www.today.com/health/mind-body/grief-changes-brain-rcna13613?cid=sm_npd_td_fb_ma&fbclid=IwAR2VJUwKx9sxUSS5XBxIfFt-k0Y5bZqA8iLqRhXOniry3qQTVeEmMpzzsxs" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Grieving Brain </a>How our minds respond to grief <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/10/five-stages-complicated-grief-wrong/671710/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">There are no ‘5 Stages of Grief’ </a> <a href="https://www.huffpost.com/entry/stages-of-grief_b_4414077#:~:text=Denial%2C%20anger%2C%20bargaining%2C%20depression%2C%20acceptance" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">5 Stages of Grief and Other Lies that Don't Help Anyone </a>Explains that the “5 stages of grief” are not really stages…each person’s experience of grief is unique and does not have a timeline.

Grief is not only an emotional experience, but a psychological one as well. These resources offer some information on how the brain experiences grief.

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Suicide

<a href="https://afsp.org/get-help" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">American Foundation for Suicide Prevention</a> <a href="https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone</a>

You are not alone. Below you will find resources to support those who may be at risk for suicide or for those who are grieving a loved one lost to suicide.

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