Are you happy with the relationships you've formed at BC? Is staying connected to friends and loved ones important to you? Find out how you can build and maintain more meaningful relationships in your life this year.
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Staying involved and retaining positive relationships with family, friends, and mentors can provide you with the support you need to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Here are some questions to ask yourself when trying to determine your personal state of interpersonal involvement.
- Am I genuinely satisfied with my friendships at BC?
- How often do I speak with my loved ones?
- Where and with whom can I engage in meaningful conversations outside of the classroom?
- In what ways can I reconnect with old friends, as well as make new ones?
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Schedule an appointment with the Office of Health Promotion to build your Individual Health Plan (iHP).
- Challenge Yourself. Step outside of your comfort zone and take advantage of opportunities to meet new people on campus and off. Make time to go to an event you wouldn't typically attend and bring a friend. Check out the BC Calendar for a listing of upcoming events.
- Introduce Yourself. Simply sending a friend request on Facebook may allow you to learn more about someone on the surface, but won't give you a deeper understanding of who they really are. Aim to build friendships in person by engaging in face to face conversations that go beyond the virtual discussion wall. Increasing in-person interactions with others can help you develop new interests, talents, and a needed sense of belonging.
- Get to know your Resident Assistant. If you live on campus you have an additional resource directly in your living community. Talk with your RA about opportunities to get engaged in your residence hall and within the larger BC community. Visit the ResLife Program Calendar for upcoming events.
- Volunteer! Doing for others can be good for the community and be personally rewarding, as well. Gain a sense of motivation to make a positive difference in your life and in the lives of others by visiting the Volunteer and Service Learning Center in McElroy 114.
- Expand your network. Speak to your advisors, professors, and mentors about your interests. They may also be able to connect you with students with similar interests.
- Reconnect. Make an effort to stay in touch with old friends and family members by talking with them on the phone or seeing them in person when able.
Building a support system with your family and friends can be especially helpful during your time at BC. Higher levels of social support can lead to higher satisfaction with your college experience, more self-confidence in the decisions you make, and a decrease in the likeliness of feeling depressed or anxious.
Here are some popular strategies BC students use to stay connected with family and friends.
- Texting or talking on the phone
- Using Facebook & Twitter
- Eating meals with friends
- Using email to catch up with others
- Getting involved with a club or organization
- Using Skype or Facetime to chat
Here are some additional strategies for maintaining the relationships you've developed with your family and friends.
- Send a personalized postcard, letter, or greeting card through the mail to loved ones you do not see as often. A tangible greeting speaks measures about your appreciation of the recipient and the relationship you have with them.
- Designate time out of your semester to visit your loved ones in advance so that it becomes a priority. Let them know your plans ahead of time, especially if your visit is during an unpredictable time.
- Call your family and friends to share great news or to simply catch up. Acknowledging your achievements with those who support you can have a positive impact on your overall mood.
- Invite those in your support network to join you for special events or casual meetings to remain connected with those who matter most to you.
- Talk to close family and friends during stressful times. Speaking with a parent, mentor, or close friend can offer you reassurance that you can get through it.
Online networking sites can be great tools to reconnect with old friends, but relying on them to replace other methods of social interaction can be detrimental to the relationships you have with others. Try using technology as a vehicle to enhance your personal connections with others. Here are some suggestions:
- Meet with friends with similar interests displayed on social networking sites. Face to face conversations can give you a deeper understanding of one's passions and talents.
- Call others on the phone to respond to posted updates. Hearing a familiar voice can provide comfort in stressful and celebratory situations.
- Trying to resolve issues or need clarification? A series of email exchanges can leave one easily misunderstood. Try using video chat tools to further enhance communication.
- Texting can be helpful when you are not able to talk, but can cause a disturbance when you are trying to be productive. Give those thumbs a rest and pick up the phone.