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Worried About Yourself or a Friend?

ASAP

Want to better understand your own alcohol use?

Schedule a 20 minute confidential meeting in Maloney Hall 460 or call our information and support line 617-552-4000.

 

How to Help a Friend

  • Get sound advice. Go to a Boston College staff member* or health professional.  You don’t have to name any names.  If you explain the situation to a third party, it may help you figure out how to proceed.
  • Get sobriety on your side.  When it’s time to talk to your friend, make sure he or she isn’t drunk.  The time will never feel “right” to bring up such a tough subject, but beginning your talk when you’re both alert will give you a better chance of being heard.
  • Know resources to recommend to your friend on campus.
  • Keep it personal.  Begin the conversation with your friend by letting him or her know you care, and that’s why you are going to be honest.  Use your own feelings about the situation- “The way you act when you’re drinking makes me worry about you” instead of “so and so said you get too drunk.”  Be up front and list the negative affects you have seen alcohol have on the person, including health problems, memory loss, high risk behaviors, blackouts, friend/roommate conflicts. 
  • Expect denial.  It won’t be easy to get a friend to admit that he or she may have a problem.  Hear your friend out.  Also, although they may not be ready to make a change, they will have the information for the future. 

*A staff member of the Alcohol Screening and Prevention Initiative is available to speak confidentially with you about any concerns you may have about yourself or another student, email Nic Sperry or Jemima Pierre.