In a way, I suppose, she didnt really have a choice. We simply told her the facts. We didnt say, Look if you dont do it, Lewis will die, because that would have been too much, but she knew as much. At the end of the day a parent isnt going to say, The choice is yours. If you decide not to, thats fine, well just prepare for our sons funeral. If she had had very strong views against being a donor, I dont know what we would have done.
Dobson, supra note 81. In fact, the ten year-old daughter had hoped she would not turn out to be a match and spoke of her fear of hospitals and needles. See id. None of this, however, amounted to the daughter holding strong views in the mothers eyes. See id.
The very young donor is going to be afraid to come into the hospital, just like any three and a half year old would be. We show them the place that theyll be staying. In many cases well take them up to the operating room and show them that. We can use play therapy with a doll or with a teddy bear. . . . We have facilities for the parent to stay with the child both before and after the procedure.
Id.; see also Little, 576 S.W.2d at 499.
The significant decisions of life are more complex than statistical determinations. Individual choice is determined not by the vote of the majority but by the complexities of the singular situation viewed from the unique perspective of the person called on to make the decision. To presume that the incompetent person must always be subjected to what many rational and intelligent persons may decline is to downgrade the status of the incompetent person by placing a lesser value on his intrinsic human worth and vitality.
Id.; see also Baron, supra note 8, at 187; Delaney, supra note 302; Griner, supra note 101, at 60810; Lebit, supra note 136, at 12729.