February 22, 2012
"Leave your gift there at the altar, go first and be reconciled with your brother, come and offer your gift." (Mt. 5:24)
It is good to have others remind us that we need to seek forgiveness and maybe even enable forgiveness. Is there anyone you could help in this way? Or do you need to ask somebody to forgive and be reconciled?
Comments from Alumni and Friends
Kathy Asmar—How beauitful. We should all make this part of our lives.
Susan Gonzalez '81—Oliver knows at a young age what it sometimes takes many of us half of our lifetime (or longer) to understand. Forgiving others is paramount to learning how to forgive ourselves. Saying and hearing the words "I am sorry" is one of the simplest but most meaningful of human experiences. It is how we say "You matter to me." Beautifully told, Oliver. Thank you.
Liz Stowe Fennell '05—This reflection is beautiful. I've never thought of forgiveness as an exercise. I, too, hope that I am able to practice forgiveness in a new way this Lenten season, to fully experience the Resurrection at Easter.
Guest—It was so important for me to see this video today! I have been sad because my best friend has let me down. I needed to hear this because I wanted to forgive her but I couldn't. God sent me this message and I'm so happy to start my lenten season with this clear message.
Pamela Ready Palumbo '85—Will be looking forward to each week's new video---wonderful idea for parents to have children sit and hold hands and learn lesson of forgiveness---also am reminded how powerful the simplest admission/supplication of 'I'm sorry, please forgive me' can be.
Class of '72—What a wonderful way to begin the season of Lent! Learning to forgive others is important and so too is learning to forgive ourselves. I haven't always been the best mom, daughter, wife, sister, friend even when I think that I have done the best I can. But I need to be able to move on and allowing myself to forgive myself has helped. I look forward to this Lenten journey.
Guest—Simple and beautiful! How many people go through life thinking they are un-forgiven for something they've done? What a wonderful blessing it would be to let them know they are forgiven. Thank you.
Gerald Mahoney '72—I believe C S Lewis said that 'everyone talks about forgiveness until it becomes time to forgive.' I think of that often when I need to forgive another. It's not easy and takes effort to forgive. I wish it were as easy to forgive as to wanting to be forgiven.
Sr. Margaret Mary Forsyth SSND, '67—With EVANGELIZATION as a present major priority of the Holy Father, B.C.'s outreach, with the world-wide need of forgiveness as its focus, is inspired. By using the means of reaching the WORLD in a rapid, all-embracing manner through our technology, even the Apostles would love to come back to start over again! I will forward this each week to as many as I possibly can. Thank you!
Jane McHale, Parent '14—Thank you for this beautiful reflection from a young man who has lived and understood forgiveness in his young life. Sent it to my prayer buddies!
Kathy Kickman '68—What a wonderful way to start the day! I am moved by Fr. Jack's warm words of welcome 'into the heart of God's love for us,' challenged by the speaker's wise words and grateful that BC is offering this to its wider community.
Carole Milan Danis—All my life I have been fascinated by the art of forgiveness. It was not part of my growing up years and I think I carried and do carry much guilt for the past. In some ways, I find it more difficult to forgive myself than to forgive others, although I know the two are related. This Lent I hope to focus on God's unconditional love for me and reflect on how I might forgive myself and free myself from the past.
Maureen O'Connor Hurley '77—I don't think that I understood forgiveness until recently. I thought that someone had to be sorry before you could forgive them. But lots of times, the person that hurt you the most is not sorry. So, I thought that you couldn't forgive them or they might hurt you again. Then, I realized that forgiveness comes from within me and has nothing to do with the other person(s). It is freeing to explore the hurt, try to understand why it happened and perhaps learn from it, then let it go. You can forgive and still protect yourself from being hurt that way again without carrying the anger and the hurt with you every day. Maybe this comes with age?
Ken—While attending BC, I became offended by the action of a friend. As I later learned this was only in my mind. Some forty years passed when for some reason I decided to mentally forgive that person. During those intervening years we had no contact. Within a few days after my mental forgiveness I received a phone call from that person who wanted to visit me.
Sophie and Ken Pataky, Texas—We truly need these for inspiration. I myself, at this age (86) became very inspired. Such a sad world today. In god we trust and his blessings to go everywhere. Believe and forgive. Go...do it!